Have you ever been down on yourself?
Have you ever doubted your abilities, or even your right to be where you are
I know I have. In fact, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that most of us have had moments of self-doubt. But why is this? And what can we do about it?
The answer is simple: we need to learn how to be kinder to ourselves. That’s all! It sounds easy enough, but the truth is that most of us don’t treat ourselves with kindness—or any kind of love—very often at all. We beat ourselves up over mistakes; we berate ourselves for not being perfect; we criticize our bodies, our minds… even our souls! No wonder so many of us struggle with self-doubt!
When we’re feeling like a failure, it’s easy to forget that success and self-doubt are two sides of the same coin. They’re both about our perception of ourselves, and how we see our ability to achieve our goals.
It’s important to remember that if we’re experiencing self-doubt now, it doesn’t mean we won’t succeed later on. In fact, it may just be the best thing that could have happened to us! A little self-doubt can actually help us prepare for success by making sure we don’t get too confident or cocky about what we’re doing (it’s easy for a lot of people who are successful at something to think they know everything about it). It also helps us keep things in perspective—if we know that failure is possible at any time, then there’s less pressure on us when things don’t go our way.
Self-doubt is a normal part of being human, but it can also be paralyzing. If you’re someone who constantly second-guesses your decisions and actions, it’s time to learn how to harness the power of self-doubt instead of letting it hinder your progress.
Here are five reasons why self-doubt is an important part of success:
- Self-doubt can lead you to prepare more skillfully: When you’re feeling unsure about yourself or a situation, it’s natural to try to gather as much information as possible before making any decisions or taking any action. Self-doubt can be motivating because it makes us think critically about our decisions and helps us make sure we’re prepared for whatever comes next.
- Self-doubt makes it easier for you to sacrifice for your goals; It’s hard to commit 100 percent of your time and energy toward something when you’re not sure if it will work out — especially if that thing requires significant sacrifice from other areas of your life, like family or friends. Self-doubt gives us permission to take a step back and reevaluate our goals without feeling guilty about putting them on hold temporarily (or permanently).
- Self-doubt can help you build resilience in the face of failure.: It’s when we push through those doubts and take action anyway that we get the results we want—and develop a sense of confidence about ourselves as well as our abilities. So let’s stop beating ourselves up for feeling less than perfect and instead use those feelings to motivate us to make progress!
- Self-doubt can lead you to gather better information before making important decisions.: When you’re faced with a big decision, it can be easy to get caught up in the moment and make an impulsive choice. But if you take a step back and consider how much more information you could gather about the decision if you were less certain of your own abilities, it’s clear that self-doubt can actually help you make better choices. “When I’m feeling uncertain about my ability to succeed in a project or task, I tend to gather more information than I would when I’m feeling confident,” said Amal Saad, the director of Wide Impact “I’ve learned that this helps me avoid making poorly informed decisions.”
- Self-doubt keeps your feet on the ground.: It’s a safety feature, like a seatbelt or a parachute. When you’re working on something new, self-doubt is there to stop you from getting too far ahead of yourself and taking a big risk. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or just trying to make your way up the corporate ladder, self-doubt is always there for you—just like a best friend who wants nothing more than for you to succeed and be your best self.
I know what it’s like to feel like you’re not good enough.
I know what it’s like to feel like you’re not going to make it.
I know what it’s like to think that you have nothing special to offer and that no one cares about what you think or say.
And I also know what it’s like to overcome all of that and succeed in ways that I never even dreamed possible.
The key is learning how to use your inner strength in the right way, so that instead of letting fear control your life, you learn how to use it as a tool for self-improvement and growth. I’ll share ways that you can overcome self-doubt and fear:
- Focus on Why You Want It
- Make A Plan for Success And Stick To It
- Overcome Fear by Taking Small Steps
- Be honest with yourself about your real fears and concerns.
- Think about what you’re afraid of losing before making a big decision.
- Don’t compare yourself with others
- Do what’s best for your business, not your ego
- Find people who understand what you’re going through and support you along the way.
- Celebrate your success after overcoming self-doubt.
So don’t fear self-doubt. Cherish it! It’s one of your most valuable tools for success, and it’ll help you stay focused on what matters most: your own ideas and values.
Takeaway: The next time you feel insecure or unsure, be grateful; you’re one step closer to success.